“You want to be a part of my life: I'm not editing out the parts you don't like.” – from Torchsong Trilogy
When you get to know someone and you gradually (or instantly) fall in love (or lust), there will come a point sooner (or later) that both of you want (or need) to discover a little (or a lot) of each other’s past. It’s only a natural progression in the relationship (or affair). All couples (or coupling pairs) would go through this, whether straight or bent (or in-between).
So how much do you tell?
There’s no real manual for this that you can refer to when in doubt. At least not that I know of. However from my own observations, there seem to be some fairly useable rules-of-thumb. I’ll summarise them as follows:-
1) If he’s only interested in ONS-
He will will ask where (or which online sites) do you go to pick up partners, and how often, and how successful you’ve been. Perhaps he’ll ask (on a pleasant hair day day) if the drinks there are any good. You needn’t tell the truth of course to all (or any) of the questions. Your non-committal answers (or lack thereof) will also imply that all you want is a quickie.
2) If he’s interested in an affair-
Probably he’ll want to know if you ever had a bf/gf/fb before. And if you did, he’ll want to know what happened to him/her/them. Again you can tell some of the truths, but it’s still optional. The pivotal point is if you do have a bf/gf/fb, you’ll have to decide whether you want an affair or just relegate it to just a quickie. That decision will shape your response. Usually its a lie, of course, since you’d want your cake and eat it to. Plus all the icing. If you are unattached or detached, then there isn’t much of a problem. Whatever your pre-existing status, this is where your answers form the basis of the affair, and how far it could go.
(..to be continued..)
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